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How to keep your marriage
First and foremost, we must understand the basic foundation, or the prerequisite to marriage.
Marriage is not a thing that just happens over night, or a thing that can happen over night, it has to start from some where, from the basis, from the foundation.
The first step to marriage is a relationship, without a relationship, there can be no successful marriage, relationship is the process that has to do with meeting each other, knowing each other, acquitting with each other, the development of likeness for each other, which leads to dating, and in most cases, it leads to courtship, which is the bedrock for marriages.
This aspect of relationship has to do with knowing who and what is your spouse made off, what I mean in essence is that, this is the avenue to know the deeper things about who you are dealing with, the kind of food he or she likes, the kind of clothes he or she likes, some few thing about his or her past life, his or her strong and weak point, general knowledge about life in general, social or spiritual background, and many more.
Why courtship? Courtship expose you to the real challenges head, makes you understand the man or woman you want to spend the rest of your life with, at least 60 percent.
At this point, is where many marriages are made, or the foundation of many marriages destroyed.
When you begin to play pranks at this stage, then there is bound to be problem; when spouse begin to tell each other lies, then there is bound to be problem, when spouse are not faithful to each other at these stage, then when they get married, there is going to be the problem of unfaithfulness, which is a disaster in any relationship.
Having establish this fact, which is a pointer to the real thing (marriage),
Then, what is marriage? Marriage is a union between two party, a man and a woman to become one; in other words, it is the total agreement between a man and a woman to spend the rest of their life together, in life, until life do them apart.
The most important element in marriage, is not how you got married, whether it is traditionally, according to the custom of the people involved, or through court registry, or better still, through church wedding, or the money spent, and the people who witness the occasion; that is not the issue in marriage matters, to be frank, they are in relevant matters.
The most important thing after wedding is how to keep the fire of the union alive and burning till the end of time.
The first step in keeping your marriage is that, the man must understand that his wife is not a figure head, but a helper and assistance to him.
He must love her the way he loves himself.
He must not lord over her, but must seek her opinion in every issue pertaining to the family matters.
She must love and respect her husband with all her heart.
She must compliment the effort of the husband.
Both of they must be faithful to each other on every occasion.
There must be a collective decision making.
They must learn to settle their differences at once without a third party.
They must learn to forgive each other’s wrong doings.
They must trust each other completely.
They must be fond of each other at all time.
Above all, they must pray together, and get close to God, the initiator and the foundation of all marriages.
All my life though some have changed ..
Some have gone and some remain
With lovers and friends I still can recall
Some are dead and some are living .
In my life I’ve loved them all
But of all these friends and lovers
There is no one compares with you
And these memories lose their meaning
When I think of love as something new
Though I know I’ll never ever lose affection
I know I’ll often stop and think about them .
Though I know I’ll never lose affection
I know I’ll often stop and think about them
In my life I love you more.
I do believe the Lord above created you for me to love he picked you out from all the rest cuz he knew I’d love you best, I once had a heart that was true but it’s gone from me to you so care for it as I have done for you have two and I have none, If I go to heaven and your not there I’ll write your name on the golden stair if your not there by judgement day I’ll know you went the other way, So I’ll give the angels back their wings golden harps and other things and just to prove my love is true I’ll even go to hell for you
What happened to it? What happened to women with self-respect and to men who believed in having one woman. What happened to relationships that people didn’t give up or get divorced because you suddenly got bored with them. You can call me old-fashioned but I always believed a good, strong, and lasting relationship went through ups and downs (cheating not being part of ups and downs) and still you got through it together. That’s real love. Not this “I want to find my soulmate” kind of love. As if there is one perfect man and one perfect woman. Are you kidding me? Obviously that doesn’t exist. I’m talking about the love where you look past all the flaws. I believe in women being strong and I also believe that a good woman can work, cook, clean, take care of the kids, and still have time to make love to your husband. It’s not impossible. Although, they make it seem that way. Men don’t know how to be handy men anymore. Some are too busy figuring out this “metrosexual” business. They’re doing their eyebrows and nails. What??? I understand everyone needs to pamper themselves every now and then but if you come to think of it if you weren’t too busy with nails, fashion, and basically looks maybe you wouldn’t have to pay thousands of dollars to build something new in your house or even paint. Don’t think I forgot about the women either… the women of today are half naked with no shame what-so-ever. Then they wonder why men use them and throw them away like a big piece of meat hmmm lets think about that. The women of today dont think that maybe if they leave something to the imagination the guy may actually respect them for that. Not have sex the same day you meet them and there are various reasons for that. Now, don’t get me wrong I’m not telling anyone how to live their lives but so many people complain why certain things happen to them. I believe partly why men don’t want a relationship or don’t want to have sex with just one women is because of how women represent themselves. Think about it if women didn’t dress trashy with their ass hanging out the sides and their breasts in everyones faces than maybe men wouldn’t think that it’s ok to have a one night stand and maybe give you their wrong cell phone number or keep using you to get what they want over and over again. Maybe men would have more respect for women if they would cover there ass and show a lil bit up top but not the whole tit platter sort of speak. Look back on the times and ask yourself what has women and men done to better themselves. I know women have gained rights but I mean what more have you done as an individuals. Just something to think about
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